Do your homework Meeting for the first time creates enough mystique on its own–make sure you are prepared in as many ways as possible. Has she mentioned a food she wants to try or a neighborhood that she wants to check out? Before you order another round of drinks, make sure she wants the same thing that she's sipping now.
Once you’ve made your choice, make a restaurant reservation, and do some research. If she isn’t drinking her wine, she might not like it, so ask her.
Instead keep the convo moving by making funny observations.
("Do you ever accidentally make eye contact with the people stopped next to you at a red light? ") Don't worry about silences — you can always default to talking about what's playing on his i Pod.
Also important: wear something appropriate that makes sense for the location.
First dates are often boring, awkward, unexciting, and even torturous to many men.
It’ll only look strange if you tell them all that you’re already seated and waiting to order. If your date asks what you’d like to eat, drink, or share for dessert, don’t say “I don’t care, what do you want? Obviously, you want to look your best, but a first date isn’t the time to take those new stilettos out for a road test, or wear that dress that’s a little tight. Because first dates are anxiety-filled enough and being uncomfortable in your clothes only makes it worse.
Plus, won’t it suck to not be able to walk a few blocks on a nice night because your heels are too high? There’s not much to say here without sounding like a preachy parent, but keep this in mind: Having to be carried home by someone you barely know isn’t fun (nor is slurring your words or crying at the dinner table).
Want to learn from other guys' restaurant-date mistakes? But if you've spoken at all before the date, you should have noted any details she mentioned about herself; be sure to brush up on them before the date. Pull out a chair, open a door, let her order first–these old-school moves go a long way.
Follow Talia's tips on how to secure an easy win the first time around. It shows that you were thoughtful enough to spend more than the five minutes before you saw her to plan the date. If you ask her where she's from, even though she already told you on the phone, it might seem like you're dating too many women, or just aren't attentive. But more importantly, pay attention to her experience–this is what chivalry is all about these days.